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Always Be Inviting People To Something

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When you communicate, be aware of what you sub-communicate.

In all your personal development work, you’ve probably seen research that suggests that the words we speak comprise only a tiny portion of our communication.

Experts say that body language and tone of voice are by far the greater portion.

But beyond knowing that most communication is non-verbal, think about what, exactly, you communicate non-verbally. Because you’re always sub-communicating something.

But what? That you’re too busy? More important than others? Bored? Or that you care, that you’re committed, or that you understand?

What do you sub-communicate? What do you want to?


Listen to your intuition.

By now you know that your effectiveness as a coach is a function of your ability to listen. But your ability to listen to what?

Three things: what your client says (of course), what your client doesn’t say (more advanced), and your own inner voice or intuition (sometimes the most challenging).

Especially when you’re just starting out, it can be difficult to remain fully present, not thinking about your next brilliant question or how to direct the conversation.

Recognize that those thoughts muffle your ability to listen to your intuition.

To hear it, cultivate present-moment awareness.


Always be inviting people to something.

Do you have a book club? A running group? A writers’ circle? A men’s group? Some other way to bring people together regularly?

If not, why not?

There are so many potential benefits of convening people.

It’s a way to deliver value to others with no expectation of return.

It’s a way for you to stay connected with people in a meaningful way.

People are more likely to view you as a leader and the kind of person they want to do business with.

It’s fun. Bringing people together can be its own reward.

Brilliant Miller

I help achievers learn & grow, connect, contribute and have fun.

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