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How to Win an Argument Every Time
This might sound a bit simplistic, but do your best to follow me here: when two people argue, two people argue. And, if even one of these people ceases to argue, the argument ceases.
You can be a person who, upon finding yourself in an argument, ceases to argue.
You can not only end arguments, you can avoid arguments altogether.
And, you can do this without compromising yourself, your beliefs, commitments or desires.
You will, however, have to make space for other people’s beliefs, desires and perspectives, even when they differ from yours.
Use These Questions to Help Clients Expand Their Awareness
Maybe you’ve noticed that many people don’t really know what they think or how they feel. As a coach of mine once said, “The human condition is fog.”
Scaling questions can help with this.
Scaling questions look like this, “On a scale of zero to ten, where zero is ‘not at all’ and ten is ‘completely,’ how satisfied are you with your [job/fitness/relationship/whatever]?”
Then, follow up with questions like, “What rating would you prefer?” “What could you do to increase your rating by one?” or “What would a ten look like?”
Gracefully Ask for Referrals
When asking for referrals, be specific, clear and brief.
Consider requesting like this:
“For the last [period], I’ve been serving [specific people] by [specific service OR result]. Do you know any [specific people] who might want [specific service OR result], and if so, are you open to introducing me?”
Example: “For the last few months, I’ve been serving entrepreneurs by helping them get and stay organized. Do you know any entrepreneurs who might want to get and stay organized, and if so, are you open to introducing me?”
Be okay with “No.” Be prepared for “Yes.”
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